How can we help?
Counselling can help you with this process of coming to terms with the abuse and rebuilding your life.
Abuse comes in many forms; physical, sexual, emotional and domestic violence; and has a massive impact on the victim’s self-esteem, confidence and sense of identity. The abuser may be someone in your immediate family, someone who came into your life as you were growing up, or your partner. Whether the abuse is current, or happened in the past, it takes a great deal of courage to seek help and talk about it, especially as the abuser will probably have given you a lot of messages that the abuse is your fault. This can leave you with lots of confused thoughts and feelings about what happened and who is responsible. It is normal to feel a range of mixed up emotions, from anger (at yourself and the abuser), hurt, fear, guilt, shame, frustration and many more. These can make it extremely difficult to feel trust in others and feel safe enough to talk to someone about the abuse.
It takes time to work through these feelings and find a way to live with the knowledge that it happened, while limiting the daily impact. It is important that this process is done at your pace, so that you are in control of what you say and when.